Let’s Get Started

Crazy to think, I would be creating a blog. Never would have imagined it to be possible, and what I struggled with the most, was creating my own website.

So here’s a little back story on how I came up with the idea, how I got started etc.

I am as of March 2025, a senior in college getting ready to graduate with a BA in Psychology and a minor in Law and Justice. I transferred to my current institution back in 2023, and in one of the classes, I was required to takea creative writing class. Now at first, I wasn’t happy because at my old institution, I had already taken about 3 English classes. So I’m like “fine.” I’ve never been the kind of student to search up my professors, I never really cared that much, no professor is perfect, and no professor from my experience in being in college has been that bad.

My first assignment in my creative writing class, was to write a letter to someone you knew as if they forgot who you were. I wrote a letter to mom and it was titled “Dear Mom, I’m Sorry.” I wrote it in the form of a poem, and for extra credit you attach a picture, and I decided to of course, attach a picture with me and mom, and so I come into class the day after it was due, and professor is legit staring me down with hawk eyes. My first thought is “he’s staring at me because I’m black.” So I’m sitting here super confused, my professor asks me, “would you mind reading some of your poem out to the class, I really enjoyed your work”

I was nervous, but I did what he had asked of me. I mean I was really appreciative of the fact he only asked me to share. I shared a few lines, and he says in front of me, and the entire class… “One of the best poems I’ve ever read.”

Mind you, I wrote that poem in like 3o minutes.

But honestly it felt really good, and my confidence in my writing skyrocketed after that. I mean there was one day my professor pulled me out of class before it begun, and he had asked me, “what’s your major, what are my plans after graduating,” and I answer, “I’m a psych major, and I don’t really know my plans,” and my professor, he tells me, I should really consider becoming a writer, my work has been outstanding thus far, and I honestly brushed it off, because I knew I never wanted to be a writer. I’ve always had a passion for helping people.

So now two years rolls by and I’m in my stress management class, and we’re learning about how to be active listeners, and in this TedTalk video, the lady says one thing we must stop doing is… You know when you’re having a conversation with someone, and you start getting ideas and you start sharing your ideas with the person you’re talking to. Yea don’t do that. Once you start getting ideas you stop listening to the person speaking, and then the lady in the TedTalk cracks a joke and says, “if you got so many ideas, write a blog.” I’ve been 22 years old for 3 months, and I’ll say this, my first time ever spraining my ankle, and the first time I’ve felt an actual light bulb light up on the top of my head. I look to my friend, and I’m like “wait a minute, I could start a blog, I might actually start a blog!” and she’s like “oh yeah,” and I’m like “Yea!” I mean shoot, I always got something to say, my parents always complain about how I’m always talking back, and I had a professor tell me to quit everything to become a writer, I mean starting this blog I think is the best idea I’ve ever come up with.

I mean it’s not the craziest most entertaining story, but It’s pretty cool to have this story to share with the world. How I got the name, is more boring than how I got the idea to start.

Random Wednesday in study hall, I was talking to my friend, and I turn to him and I say, “hey man I’m gonna start a blog,” and of course as any good friend with great communication skills, he asks me, “oh yeah, about what?” and I say “Life, I feel like with how much I’ve been through and just I’ve learned so much, I could really help young people.” He then proceeds to ask me, was I going to name it “Char’s Life” or “Life in Char” and I misheard him, and I break my neck to look at him and say…

“Did you just say LIFE INSURANCE???”

And that’s how I came up with Life InCHARance. 🙂

Above all else, I just really hope my blog speaks to someone who may be going through a tough time, or is struggling to really find a path, direction, meaning. This blog is here to let you know you’re not alone. No matter how many times I’ve cried myself to sleep, forgot to brush my teeth, or shoved 13 glazed donuts down my face until I got lymph nodes so I didn’t have to share with my siblings, there is a reason for everything, and we’ll get through it.